My son, now 11 years old, plays football for a local team . . . there, I've admitted it . . . I feel better already . . . and even at that age there are times when the response to the referee and the obvious lack of respect from the players is awful. I'd be horrified if my son reacted with such dissent . . . and he knows it! However, this has ever been the case with football. Back in the 80s, I'd walk to my rugby club on a Saturday afternoon and on the way, pass some municipal football pitches where kids would be playing. The language and aggression from parents, the dissent and argument from the kids playing was shocking. At the rugby club, with grown men in full contact and knocking lumps out of each other, the respect for the referee was absolute. You didn't talk to the referee unless you were invited to and then you called him Sir, usually communication with the referee was conducted through the captain.
Today I fear that the plethora of 'camera evidence', the influence of the 'fourth official' is effectively diminishing the role and authority of the rugby referee and you can see that some referees, even at international level, seem to be remarkably timorous about making a decision. The game is being 'slowed', decisions are a committee affair and I do yearn for the days when, if the referee didn't see it - it wasn't given.